My husband, like thousands of other men across Canada is participating in Movember. There are the obvious benefits of participation, supporting a good cause and raising awareness about Prostate cancer. But there has been a surprise benefit that I hadn't considered. The camaraderie with his fellow male co-workers.
Last night he commented to me that it was "guys supporting guys" and that struck me. My husband doesn't have a large circle of friends. Not like I do. He doesn't have as many people to talk to when he needs help or support. He doesn't write a blog to help him feel connected with his fellow man. These are all things many of us women have (and do) to help us feel supported.
His connection to other men is often superficial in a friendly way. Not that he couldn't handle that type of friendship but men often don't confide in each other the way women do. So Movember is allowing him and other males to support each other in a way they may not normally. A connection at a deeper level than usual. And I think this is a great thing.
4 comments:
I hadn't thought of Movember like that....very cool...men do need this kind of friendship...its a gift :)
So true! Men tend to have a harder time with the friend thing. Glad Movember is another opportunity to connect. :-)
Guys do have it rough in a lot of ways. My eldest son was talking to me the other day about how you have to be tough. How you can't be sad or lonely.
I think this is why a lot of men don't reach out. Because they can't show vulnerability lest it undermine their masculinity. But in the end, they are still human. So they need connection just as much as anyone else.
Stupid patriarchy.
You make a great point. I will stop complaining about the scratchiness ;)
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